Common warning signs that it might be time to have a conversation about safety and support at home.
Changes often happen gradually. What seems like "just getting older" can sometimes indicate real risks that need attention.
Trust your instincts. If something feels different, it's worth investigating — even if you can't quite pinpoint what's changed.
May indicate falls or balance problems they haven't mentioned
Could signal difficulty cooking, eating alone, depression, or health issues
May suggest difficulty with personal care tasks
Using furniture to steady themselves, shuffling gait, avoiding stairs
Missed doses, confusion about pills, refilling too early or late
A previously tidy person letting things go can signal decline
May not be eating well or losing track of time
Could indicate cognitive decline or depression
May signal cognitive issues or difficulty managing finances
Safety concern — forgetting stove is on
Giving up hobbies, church, or social events they used to enjoy
Missing appointments, getting lost in familiar areas
Unusual irritability, anxiety, or apathy
May be hiding problems or embarrassed about home condition
Could indicate memory changes
Key warning signs include unexplained weight loss, missed medications, unopened mail piling up, neglected personal hygiene, unpaid bills, spoiled food in the fridge, and increased isolation from friends and activities.
Start with specific observations, not accusations. Focus on safety and independence rather than limitations. Involve them in decisions. Consider having a neutral third party like a nurse assess the situation first.
A Home Safety Review can help you understand real risks, identify quick improvements, and have a productive conversation with your family.
